Wednesday, July 16, 2008

moving blog

I'm moving my blog so that it's under my Ms Cassandra email. Please go to This Cat Is Crazy

Tuesday, July 15, 2008

Stress and celebrity sightings



I think I'm simply worn down from the last couple of months. We have a very small staff on the publication I work for, and having one editor leave two months ago (or has it been three months?) has left us working longer hours and of course, a bit stressed.

I had scheduled an appointment to give blood after work today, so I took the 1 Train south to 66th Street and walked across town. The blood donation center is on 67th Street between 1st and 2nd avenues, and I used the long walk as a kind of an unwinding of the day.

Going cross-town right there takes you through Central Park, and it's still light enough at 6 p.m. to be a safe place to walk. It was a mild afternoon and I passed one large field where tons of people were throwing Frisbees around. I have not thrown a Frisbee in years; I used to love that, and was wishing I could join them. Others were playing catch or were engaged in other sports-like activities.

In the middle of all this there was ONE man, by himself, slowly performing Thai Chi moves. He looked like he didn't notice ANYTHING around him at all. What a state of being! Could I ever achieve that? In my current state of mind, no, but one-day-at-a-time, I'll keep working on it.

My blood must be thin, or maybe I don't have a lot of cholesterol, because the bag filled up very quickly. Afterward, the blood center technician wrapped my arm in this ridiculous self-stick gauze that was white with red hearts. Really, I did NOT need to be walking the streets of New York with this on... but they left me no choice.

Last time I gave blood I had two celebrity sightings on the Upper East Side. At least I THOUGHT I saw two famous people; I passed comedian Robert Wuhl (hey, check this out: http://www.hbo.com/events/rwuhl/) on 3rd near 63rd. Just a block or two later, Paul Giamatti came jogging by. I hardly ever see celebrities and maybe my eyes were deceiving me. But according to the NY Post, celebrities can be seen in many places in NY. And they do things just like you and me!

Getting silly now. Must get some sleep. Much as I'd like to, I can't take tomorrow off. Still too much to finish.

LOL for U




There's not much else to say. Can I has a cheezie now?

Monday, July 14, 2008

Trying to take it easy


It may be weather-related, but I've had a headache all day, and I'm tired and did not feel very productive at work today. Today my new supervisor started, and I'm waiting and watching to see how THAT will work out. The boss I've occasionally bitched about is still there, but the new boss will be in between me and the higher level one. So that might be good.

On the other hand, I'll surely be called upon to help the new supervisor learn the job, because I don't trust the big boss to do this. Sadly, I was not considered qualified enough for this position (I had applied for it) but am expected to show her the ropes. Oh well.

I don't like change very much, and currently all we are going by is her resume with a work history in black and white. Time will tell how we will all get along. Will her presence be a welcome relief after two months of being short-staffed? Or will she be difficult to work for, and will my job description change?

I am hoping for the best, of course. But -- kind of like watching our government at work -- I tend to assume the worst may happen. If so, well, I'll just roll with it the best I can, take notes, and blog about it later.

Weekend was very nice. We went to a small barbecue/scene party in New Jersey and of course, Rad spanked me. I was still sore from the other night! But I also got to play Ms. Cassandra for a little while too, which was fun.

Tonight, we go to bed early and try to catch up on sleep.

Saturday, July 12, 2008

I promise to be good



Well, all right. let's not get too crazy here. I got punished last night for lateness on work mornings (I'm not ALWAYS late!) and for taking a few puffs on a cigarette two weeks ago, the last time we were visiting our friends R. & r., who are smokers.

I figured if I was breathing it anyway, I could imbibe myself a bit. Yes, I hate how smoking smells, it gets on your clothes, gives you nasty breath, etc., etc. but I did it anyway out of a desire for camaraderie. Rad was really pissed. He said he was disgusted and already punished me, and then last night he let R. punish me again. (He has sworn to REALLY give it to me big time if I do it again, including a few hundred with the strap !! and making me eat soap -- ewww! I guess he really doesn't like smoking...)

R. (since they both have the same initials I'll just use upper case for the top and lower case for the bottom in this relationship) is a very tough top from what I've seen, but I'd never played with her before last night. She spanked me really hard.

First I got pissed because I felt she was punishing me for a made-up reason. She said I "took" one of her cigarettes. I had been sitting with her girlfriend, r., and ASKED if I could have one, did not know they were R.'s.

Rad was watching us play and when it started to get really painful and I protested, he told me to get back into position. I finally said, "All right. I accept the punishment for smoking" (couldn't get my head around "stealing a cigarette," since that's not really what happened).

After Rad and r. watched R. spank me for a while (yes, I know there are too many "R" names in this blog), Rad took r. into her bedroom and gave her the spanking SHE had been asking for.

r. is a REAL brat (not like me!) and ALWAYS needs spankings. I'm "just" a procrastinator who can't organize her time well. Oh, and I sometimes indulge in things that are not good for me. I figure I gave up my main addiction, so once in a while I can misbehave in other areas, right? All right, maybe not.

So, R. also paddled, caned, and finally singletailed me. It was VERY hard to take, I was yelling a LOT. Rad said he could hear me all the way from the bedroom. I let her go as long as she wanted to, though. After my week, I really needed this kind of release. I also love that I have marks, and I can still see them this morning.

Friday, July 11, 2008

The end is near

It's Friday, I worked like crazy all week and now it's nearly the weekend. I'm still stressed but in a sort of non-emotional way (lots still to do today, but I'm not as anxious about it). I have a story to write; I'm going to work on it on the bus this morning. The lead is written so hopefully the rest'll all flow like butter when I get into work later.

After work, we're planning to visit and play with friends at their home. The top in this relationship is someone I've never bottomed to before, and she wants to make up for that tonight. She is apparently a VERY hard spanker. I'm not entirely sure my head space is there for it yet, but I can usually get there quickly and, after this hectic week, it may be a good release.

She knows how to use a single tail, and I might ask her if she will use that on me since I like that type of play. I find it sort of meditative, not as frantic a feeling as a hard over-the-knee thrashing. Rad going to top her girlfriend, and says she's been bratty all week and really needs it.
Will, perhaps, report back later. Time to get this party (AKA work) started...

Tuesday, July 8, 2008

I'm annoyed --- what else is new?

WHY am I getting so annoyed lately? It must be the heat. It's so sticky and muggy here; my sinuses are really clogged up; I've had a headache on and off for two days.

We were in the grocery store tonight after work, and at the checkout I started to head to the end of the counter to bag the groceries (Rad was paying). Then I saw there was already a guy down there bagging. Oh, that's cool. I looked at him again and I saw he was not wearing a store uniform or name tag, however -- and then I noticed the tip cannister on the corner of the bagging area.

All right. I opened my mouth. I say, "Excuse me, do you work here?" The kid said, "Yes," but he didn't sound too certain. I said, "Oh, okay. I was just wondering why there was a tip jar there."

The kid gave the cashier a look. Rad gave me a look. I know he thinks I should just be quiet. Pick and choose your battles, he says. Yes, I know, I know. There are many, many other things to get bugged about, like the Korean ladies who come into a restaurant pushing DVDs while you're trying to eat, and the loudmouths in the Starbucks, and people who stand suspiciously too close to you on the train platform so you have to really watch your bag (to randomly name a few).

Still ... this gets to me. I just don't like the implication that I should tip in a non-tipping situation. I don't like it at Starbucks, or Dunkin Donuts, or anywhere else where's there's counter service. I hate it in a restroom, where a lady hands you a paper towel you could have ripped off the roll yourself. I HAVE tipped at Starbucks on occasion to get rid of some change, but ONLY if the employee is nice to me -- otherwise forget it, and regardless of how little these employees are paid -- no one is obliged to tip. At sit-down restaurants, I'm always generous. That's where you're SUPPOSED to tip.

Rad and I had a discussion after we left the grocery store. I said I'd try harder to not open my mouth at the slightest provocation. I felt justified in expressing my views while we were still at the store. But I probably really didn't do too well with that, come to think of it. I was indirect and passive-aggressive. Not the best way to register a complaint.

Monday, July 7, 2008

Blogger's block strikes again

Just got back from a business trip over the long weekend, which was quite successful, but the work is not finished and I still have to write an article about the event. I had my laptop with me over the weekend, but the weekend was hectic and I barely had time to check emails, let alone blog. By Sunday, when I flew home, I was exhausted. I know this is not a good excuse, however, and I'll get back to blogging soon.

(Does a blog about not being able to come up with a blog topic count as a blog?)

Anyway, there were witnesses who, I hope, will report back to my boss about my brilliance over the weekend. I was very nervous about having to do some public speaking -- a brief talk in front of a large crowd; and conducting a workshop on Saturday. Both went well, I think. I was pretty well prepared for the workshop and did a decent job of leading a back and forth exchange with the audience. Not something I've ever done before, so I was happy it worked out. The weekend conference, beyond being a lot of work, was fun for me. I met a lot of interesting people.

I hate still feeling insecure at work, though. I do the best that I can and I think that I'm doing all right, but I want to be a little more confident and assertive; I'm not quite there yet. Strangely, I DO think that topping more in my scene life helps me in my work and vanilla life.

Anger and guilt

I saw my therapist last week and it felt like an unproductive session, even though I felt fairly normal, couldn't identify any major anxieties, didn't think there was anything earthshattering that I needed to unload. When I left I was saying to myself, Am I wasting my money? Do I really need to sit here every week talking? Does she think I'm just a pathetic, self-centered whiny bitch?

As I walked down Lexington Avenue after the session, I soon realized the voice questioning my need for therapy was the same voice that frequently pops up and says, "Don't ask for help, you're on your own -- deal with it."

I didn't realize I was angry until someone pulled a maneuver on the street -- this lady just HAD to walk in front of me and cut me off -- then immediately slowed down. Once I got onto the train, I again got angry, this time at a "bully" who was blasting music on a little radio/CD player with no earphones. (I call them bullies, because I feel like they're laughing at all of us who are too nervous to actually say anything, let alone do anything, about their rudeness).

I felt powerless and angry. Yet I hate that I get angry. I felt guilty for feeling angry.

And why else do I feel guilty? Shall I count the ways? "I'm not a good enough friend," "I gossip too much," "I surf the internet too much at work," "I don't help other people enough," well, I could keep going, but you get the idea.

So all these feelings were not expressed to my therapist, and should be, except for the vicious cycle that's running through my head: "Don't make yourself too vulnerable. If you tell her how you feel, it may just be left hanging there, unrelieved." I don't know if that's true, and all of these feelings may just be part of my normal cycle, my usual down phase just before my time of the month.

Sunday, June 29, 2008

Public speaking, public play

Last night we headed to Paddles for the TES spanking night. TES stands for The Eulenspiegel Society (http://www.tes.org/), a NY-based BDSM society that's been around for 37 years. They host workshops, demos, and talks on various scene topics. (This coming weekend is the TES Fest in New Jersey; details: http://www.tesfest.org/. I can't attend as I'm traveling for work, but I recommend it for anyone wishing a broader picture, more knowledge about what's out there.)

TES also hosts a spanking night, with a talk or a demo, once a month at Paddles. Last night, the "theme" was a "most spankable butt" contest. Because of the downpour in the early evening, a lot of people stayed home, so when I got there, I was the only woman. Yikes. I hadn't planned on entering the contest, because ... well, you know, I didn't want to make things unfair for everyone else (ha)!

But when no other women showed up, the organizers figured they better switch gears. The contest was cancelled and they asked Rad and me to join the guest moderator, Jesse, and give a little talk about public play. They also asked me if I could spank any of the men in the audience who wanted a spanking. I said, "Sure!"

The audience was small, still mostly men (two other women had come in by then). I had no idea what was going to come out of my mouth, but I got up and started talking, and then I made Rad take over for a little while, and then Jesse said a few words. Finally I asked for volunteers. The guys were only a little bit shy, several jumped right up to get spanked. It was a lot of fun. While spanking the first guy, I gave a little mini-lecture on safewords -- especially when playing with a brand new partner whose limits you don't know yet.

I always try to let Rad be my first and last top of the evening, so I asked him if he "wanted" to come up and spank me. As if. And boy, did he!

After that I "opened it up" to anyone who wanted to top OR bottom. I only got one taker from the top side, a newbie, who did just fine and gave me a moderate (AKA "good girl") spanking. Another audience member confessed he needed a school paddling in front of the "class." He even presented me with a proper wooden paddle to use. Ms. Cassandra kicked into gear, lecturing him just like a school teacher would. Then she let loose with ten very hard -- but slowly paced -- strokes with the big paddle. He reacted quite nicely and I think he was satisfied.

After that, Jesse took over again and invited a newish couple, J. and L. from Boston, to come to the front and play. They ended up being very entertaining. J., the husband, gave his wife L. FIVE HUNDRED strokes with a variety of implements for something silly she'd done. She had a real cute bottom (plus she could take a LOT) and they both had the audience laughing with their banter back and forth.

It was a fun night. When regular play started, Rad led me back to the main stage and gave me 36 with the cane. We had just gotten new canes shipped from WhypDancer (http://www.canes4pain.com/). I also got to paddle and cane H., a subbie I sometimes play with. I loved hearing the rattan whistle down and his little yelps of pain afterward. He rewarded me with a foot massage when we were done. I never turn down a foot massage, and he happened to know what he was doing -- always a plus!

Rad and I were pretty much done for the night after that, and we said our goodbyes and headed home.

Friday, June 27, 2008

Coming through the pain

I play a lot, as people who know me know. I am a slut, a greedy little SAM, who needs a lot, and who's lucky to have a husband and friends who will give it to her on a pretty regular basis. And, I've been playing since my early twenties. So I know by now that a spanking is going to hurt.

Still, I tend not to think about that. I seem to FORGET how much it hurts until it's actually happening. I'll be over Rad's knee and when he starts to spank me it seems harder than EVER. (He has a very hard hand.) Is my pain memory very short; my pleasure memory longer? (Does this have anything to do with my addictive nature, why I drank for so many years? ... )

When a spanking (belting, caning, paddling) starts to feel too hard, my body reacts. I struggle. This, to me, is the beginning. This is where my top pushes me back down, orders me to stay in position and take my punishment, or physically restrains me -- a leg locked over my legs so I can't kick, or actual ropes or duct tape or something else locking me into position. Then when the punishment continues I REALLY have no choice, and I start to panic, and my top still keeps going. And going. And only stops when HE thinks I've had enough.

I'm not a safe-word type of girl. Don't use them very often. Feel sure that all the tops I play with respect them, would stop if I used one (I HAVE, on a few occasions) and would never harm me. Hurt me -- yes. Harm, no.

And the top pushes me to the point of panic, where I think I can't take ANY more, and he MAKES me. Oh god, no... I'm completely out of control, my body is not my own, during this period. I have no choice in anything.

And when he stops, at last, after that, we're sweating and breathing hard and the struggle comes to an end, I am high as a f***ing kite.

That's a scene.

Tuesday, June 24, 2008

Consumed by work right now

I don't want to talk about the spankings I still need and what Rad may or may not do to me when we go to Paddles this Saturday night. I'm overwhelmed with deadlines at work. Last night I took work home and shut myself up in the bedroom with it for an hour. So I missed the Florida Moonshine regular Tuesday chat and Shadow Lane chat. I'm going to be continuing my work on the bus this morning, as I have to prepare for a 10:30 a.m. meeting.

I may have mentioned a while back that I was promoted at work. I had applied for my boss's job when she left, but the higher-ups decided to open up and fill a higher-level position. I was technically qualified for the more advanced position, but they went with someone with more managerial experience. Problem is, she won't be starting for another few weeks. I've been covering for my old supervisor for nearly two months now. (Funny, isn't it? -- we won't promote you to this job, but -- go ahead and do it until we hire someone!)

In a strange perverse way I LIKE the responsibility, and I'm getting to be more creative than I was before. I've been asked to conduct a small workshop, which is something I've never done before. Plus I'll have to speak briefly in front of maybe 1,500 to 2,000 people at a conference next weekend. I'm trying not to think about THAT too much. I'm okay with all of this, oddly confident, actually, but much planning needs to be done. I need to work out a format for my workshop, decide what I'm going to say and what my coworker, who's helping, is going to say.

But no matter what, there's a lot of extra work, and I'm working some extra hours, and I have stress.

I don't feel a good balance in my life right now. I need to connect with people, not just kinky people, but my vanilla and ex-drunk friends, too. Need to connect, yet ... feel like I'll have to FORCE myself to dial the numbers. Haven't even talked to family members in a few days.

Rad and I have kind of been hiding out together recently, it seems. Sometimes we don't talk for a while even though we're in the same room. We're each fooling around on the computer. But it's really nice to have him here, to be ABLE to talk to him when I want to, to comment on something I just read on some blog, to go over and hug him spontaneously.

Sometimes he just gets it in his head that I need a spanking, and next thing I know I'm bent over his knee and he's peeling my underwear down...

Ahem. I wasn't TALKING about spanking. How did that get in here?

Monday, June 23, 2008

Sandy is "punished"


What I probably should have gotten was a long, hard, over-the-knee spanking, but we always have to worry about our annoying downstairs neighbor. Instead, after I got home last night, a little before bedtime, Rad ordered me into the bedroom. (Do you think his punishing me had anything to do with me walking into the kitchen earlier in just matching pink panties and bra, putting my arms around him and saying, "Daddy? I was a bad girl..."??)

It was to be the cane, with a flogging to follow. I was parading around in just the pink panties and a tight, too-small t-shirt that has a cartoon of a cat and the words, "I ♥ My Pussy." I can do white trash as well as the next girl, you know.

He made me take the panties off and lie across the bed in just the t-shirt, with my bottom raised over two pillows. He took out the thicker cane, the one that's probably about the width of my thumb or maybe middle finger. Not as stingy as the thinner ones. Not as wicked as the even-thicker "Thumper."

And then he gave me twenty-four strokes. Slowly, the way a caning's supposed to be, where you feel each one sink in and slowly subside as you anticipate the next. I like having a set number. It's easier to deal with your chastisement when you have a specific end in sight.

After the caning, I was allowed a brief pause. But then he told me to kneel up and strip. I peeled the shirt off and lay back over the pillows. He took the small, multiple-stranded flogger. This is one with hundreds of thin, rubbery strands, and it's very soft, with a normal stroke, and is pleasurable.

But when Rad really swings it, I feel like I'm being hit with something solid. It's a big thuddy impact, and I do like thuddiness, but he pushed me beyond my pleasure zone. He whipped my back with this until I was crying out and writhing. There was a short pause, then a second burst of whipping until I cried out again. He also whipped my bottom, went back and forth between my back and my butt.

It was delicious pain, just enough, just what I needed. No, it didn't REALLY feel like punishment, and it was followed by pleasure -- which I don't think I need to describe.

RIP to a comedy genius

Just heard George Carlin died last night at age 71. He's always been someone I've always admired for his wordplay, writing, and simply making you think.

A classic bit, dated or not, it's hilarious:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BTyzTJTNhNk

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Of thongs and belts

(dupe from MySpace)

We were going clothes shopping yesterday and I thought I might be trying on bathing suits, so I put a thong on instead of regular panties. They make you keep your underwear on when you try on bathing suits...

But you know, just because a girl puts on a THONG, there's no reason to assume that she needs or wants a spanking -- OR needs to be bent over the bed for a belting.

However, Paul seemed to think otherwise, so that was exactly what happened. Just a little belting, about ten strokes. Very stingy.

I've been busy spanking other guys all weekend, my arm is tired, and I think I need some REAL attention tonight. I already told my "daddy" that I was a bad girl and needed to be dealt with.

Will let you know what happens.

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Girly stuff


So, I wanted to talk about this crazy thing called a "pedicure," which is now mandated in NYC if you are a girl and wish to wear sandals or open-toed shoes.

Now, I'm pretty new at this pedicure thing. I only got my first one two years ago. It was wonderful (Dolly in Maryland had treated me for my birthday; thanks, Dolly!) and I was sorry I hadn't done it before. On the other hand, I don't like obsessing about my toes and spending money I don't have to spend, so since that first one I've only gotten two or three more -- usually before a major party. It's a once-in-a-while treat.

But yesterday it was time to get one, since I was going to top a guy who wanted to give me a foot massage after I whipped his ass.

I found a nail place on 8th Avenue that wasn't busy. Right away, the cosmotologist is treating me special. "Would you like the deluxe pedicure with a massage?" she asks. I'm thinking, wow, I just want my toes painted... I ask the price, and it was double, so I said, "Maybe next time."

She cleans off my old polish then sticks my feet in the water, which is deliciously warm and feels great. I'm reading a book, trying to act like I do this all the time and I'm bored, but really, I'm eating it up. I don't exactly know what's going on down there. She lifts one foot out of the water, starts cleaning and trimming and pushing cuticles. Then the other foot. Then more trimming, followed by more soaking. Finally she drains the tub and starts rinsing me off. She opens a little cabinet near her and takes out a towel, which was heated. She lays that over my legs and feet, presses it in, dries me off. Holy shit, that feels good. I'm practically purring. Next she massages my feet. Then starts massaging my calves. It feels terrific, but I say, "You know I only want the REGULAR pedi, right?" She nods and keeps massaging. This is the regular pedi? This ROCKS!

Meanwhile, I'm sitting in a massage chair that's been rolling, pounding, and squeezing up and down my back and neck this whole time.

The clinician rips off a piece of plastic wrap, slaps something onto it from a tub on a counter, and wraps this around my heel. It's warm and the plastic keeps the heat in. "What's that?" I ask. "Parafin," she says. "It makes your heels soft." "Ohhhh, nice," I murmur as she does the same with the other heel.

Only after all that does she finally put the color on my toes. She does a very nice job, considering that I've kind of beaten the crap out of my nails this summer. Then off I go with the little paper slippers to the drying area. She tells me I need to sit with the fan blowing on my toes for ten minutes. Okay, I think, opening up my book again. Suddenly, she's back, comes up behind me and starts rubbing my neck and shoulders! Damn, can this get any better? She massages me for about five minutes.

What an experience. I feel like a princess! Ok, enough girly stuff for now.

Friday, June 20, 2008

Send me your blog URL

I'm adding interesting blogs to my blog roll, so if you know of any, please let me know. (this is still in progress and if I know you and you don't see yours listed here, I'm still working on it).

My husband recently started a blog called radspace (http://radspace.wordpress.com/) which has some interesting thoughts about the scene. Check it out when you get a chance.

Me, I'm thinking about what to write today and kind of in a haze. I know I need a spanking, but that's obvious -- when don't I? Maybe we can go to Paddles tomorrow and play.

Gotta get to work and will come up with a topic later. Of course, suggestions welcome.

Monday, June 16, 2008

the tower of temptation




Can someone tell me how I'm supposed to work with this monstrosity calling me from the office kitchen all day? This is ridiculous. Diet is out the window for another day.

I took a little walk at lunch, did a scene tonight (that counts as another workout), and will do my pushups before bed. But I think I should have had better will power.

Sunday, June 15, 2008

Do I have something to say?


AKA, "who needs a big-ass paddling?"

The internet seems to be sucking the life out of me. I sat staring at my computer screen for the last couple hours before dinner, doing what? -- Looking at spanking web sites, reading other people's blogs, reading gossips, answering emails -- everything but writing, which is the number one thing I SHOULD be doing. Suddenly, in my mind what I have to say has become irrelevant. "No one wants to hear it. Why bother?"

This is where my head is at. I wanted to post a real Florida Moonshine party report, but I was too exhausted the first couple days back and now everyone else has reported on it ad nauseam. Whatever I contribute now will be boring. So my comments have been reduced to, "Yeah, great party!"

I turned 45 on Thursday, with little notice on FMS, Shadow Lane, or any other site I belong to. That's just as well. I really do not want to be reminded that I am now fully, solidly, and undeniably entrenched in middle age. I am not feeling sorry for myself. My life is really, really good right now. Probably better than it's ever been. And I think I look pretty darn good for 45. I just did 50 push ups in a row a little while ago (my goal is 150 for today since I skipped two days). I'm pretty active and I don't have any major health problems.

But I do have issues, and things that I would like to overcome, and I'm not getting out of my rut and overcoming them. And I wonder if I can.

My main issue is -- when am I going to get some GUTS and start doing what I feel the urge to do? When am I going to restring my guitar, pick it up, and play it in public again? When am I going to write a song again? When am I going to stop telling myself I can't write -- and just start writing? When am I going to start creating a new mosaic? When am I going to finish decorating the apartment...

And, as far as the BDSM scene goes, when am I going to stop telling myself that subs are just a dime a dozen and to a top, I am nothing but another butt? "Yes, I can take a good spanking, but so can lots of younger women with firmer asses..."

This is one reason I got into topping. I LOVE the attention. I never got much attention when I was younger, heavier, tens times shyer, and tens times more worried about what other people would think of me. Being in the scene gives me lots of attention. And I think I'm pretty good at topping, although I do have much to learn.

I feel so much competition as a sub; I feel I am vying for the tops' attention. I don't feel that as much, as a top.

Problem is, I don't REALLY get my deep needs met as a top. I really need to submit if a scene is to be a quality scene for me. Whether that's submitting to someone's control for several hours, or simply submitting to a level of pain -- that's what I crave.

Sigh. Well, at least I've gotten some words out, which I haven't done most of the week. I may revisit this later.

And I do have something to say, I think...

Saturday, May 31, 2008

some new pics


the cat who loved feet...


Riverside Park, near where I work, with George Washington Bridge in the distance. I just liked how the shot turned out.